I strive to be a platform where you only find truths. The truths about motherhood, marriage, working from home – all things I’ve chosen, all things I wouldn’t change, all things that have challenges.
As a mom to three, three and under, there’s no denying that life gets rough and I’m learning that THAT IS OKAY. We’re programmed- by the media, by family and friends, programmed to feel that everything has to be great all the time- this isn’t the case and THAT IS OKAY.
I’ll be honest, some days are great from start to finish. Some days I feel like a badass mom that’s killing the game, like I can conquer anything and I LOVE sharing that with the world. I love sharing it not just because it makes me feel good to get through a day so well but also to give hope to other mamas. Because while yes, some days are that great, there are also days that are just as tough. It doesn’t mean you care less, love less or are any less though it may sometimes FEEL otherwise.
On some days, opening your eyes will be hard. On some days, you’ll cry over the wrong sandwich (yep, been there). On some days, you’ll try on a pair of pants that totally look like they’ll fit while on the hanger to find you can hardly get them up your calves (seriously, my calves are fat too?!) And on some days, you’ll yell too much and feel really shitty about it (yep, been here too).
Being a “new” mom so frequently in so little time has allowed me to see that some things simply are not worth stressing over while others are. Some things are a big deal, others aren’t. Focus on what matters. The health of our children and ourselves must come first, always. If something is too much, don’t do it – too hard, too frustrating, too depressing – f*** it. (Excuse my french but sometimes, it’s the only thing to get the message across).
There are things that come with being a new mom that you often don’t “see” in a new mom with her newborn baby or even a mom with little ones in general. Exhaustion, poor body image, doubt, fear.. these are normal things to feel as long as they don’t consume you and as long as you can also find joy in your life, in your babies, in your spouse, in small daily successes (like everyone went to bed healthy and fed at the end of the night – THIS IS A SUCCESS!). It’s okay to wonder if you’re doing everything right, or fearing that you’re not – it shows you care and that in turn means that you are doing just fine. It’s okay not to feel 100% comfortable in your new skin, it’s okay to be tired and it’s okay to ask for help.
So to all of you “new” mamas out there, for the first time or the tenth time.. don’t be too hard on yourself, give yourself grace, find joy in the little things and when you need to do nothing other than snuggle those sweet babes – do just that. Most of all, remember, you’re never alone.
XO,
Work at Home Chaos 